33 things I wish I'd known back then but happy to know now because it is never too late baby

I wonder who I'd be had I known these things

First of all — a huge thank you to the three of you who became paid subscribers since my last letter. You’re amazing humans. I appreciate you deeply.

Second (33 things because I’m 33):

1. Become who you want to be. If you’re creative, make it your life, not your side hobby, dare to follow your inner voice, and listen to your personality.

2. Invest your money. Learn compound interest and let it grow while you sleep.

3. Develop a signature look. It can feel like your armor — own it.

4. Friendships are a two-way street. Reach out, check in, show up, and make sure your friend is doing the same. One person can not be the only one in charge of keeping the relationship going. Be the kind of friend you'd want to have.

5. Languages are rich portals. Learn as many as possible. I taught myself how to speak French at age 27. It is never too late. I’m still learning Norwegian, English, and French. I’m considering Arabic.

6. Cutting your hair short won’t make you less sexy.

7. Sad music = sad mood. Don’t spiral on purpose.

8. Happy music is a mood hack. Use it.

9. You don’t always have to respond very fast.

10. Slow replies are as powerful.

11. Travel by train.

12. Watch reality shows. Not everything has to be educational.

13. Same with books — read fiction. Escape is healthy.

14. Journal three pages every morning. Non-negotiable.

15. Sunscreen every day. Or wear a hat. Protect that face.

16. If it feels off, it is. Trust your gut. Always.

17. Try to see everything through love. Then act like it.

18. But do not be naive. Watch your back.

19. Clean your inbox. Clean your desktop. Mental clarity starts here.

20. Do not date losers. Especially the ones who make you question yourself or them. This is not love. This is not healthy. This is wrong. True love is easy.

21. Daily affirmations, always: You’re a star. A boss. Capable of anything.

22. Watch the news — but with limits. Not first thing. Not last thing. Doom-scrolling helps no one.

23. Want to help the world? Start where you are. Think global. Act local.

24. For example: compliment strangers. It’s magical.

25. Be grand. Use grandiose words. It’s delicious.

26. The love of your life is yourself. Treat you accordingly.

27. Do sports. Make it your number one priority routine. And eat well.

28. Don’t doom-scroll. No app is worth that much of your life.

29. But hack the internet. Use it to your advantage. Learn how to make money. Learn about yourself. It’s a tool, and it can make you so much money. Believe it.

30. You can be an extrovert. You can also be an introvert.

31. Get a professional massage once a month. It is 100% worth it.

32. There are always options. You are never stuck. You can go back to school at any age. You can change jobs, start over, or leave what no longer aligns. You can build a new life, even if it’s hard, even if it’s harder for you than for others. It’s still possible. Always!

33. You can make new friends at any age. It’s never too late. The right people will find you, and you’ll find them. Stay open. New friends will appear.

34. One extra, since I’m turning 34 this year. Never fear growing older. It’s such a fucking privilege. Every year in my 30s has felt better than the last. I feel more grounded, more confident, sexier, wiser, softer, and stronger all at once. There’s something truly beautiful about growing into yourself, j’adore.

Xx,
Victoria (so much luv in dis club)